Should You Try a Local or Long Distance Online Dating Love Relationship

flying to meet your love

A long distance online dating relationship can be very difficult and stressful.  That is not to say that they don't work because when a long distance love relationship works you can bet it has an above average chance of lasting forever because of the difficulties of being apart.

One of the benefits of a long distance relationship is when you meet someone in another province, state or country you have to take the time to get to know each other before you meet.  It's not like it is a 20 minute drive away and you can go home if it isn't working.

All the precautions I have outlined in the Online Dating Security page hold true even in a long distance relationship. 

Once you know each other well enough to connect by phone, or video chat, these, and your computer, will be your "life line" in so many ways.  Hearing each other is the next best thing to physically being together. 

Meeting In Person

When you meet, you have to be prepared for a couple of things, one is that the picture you have seen 'may' not be the person you see.  The person may be a bit older or their weight may have changed.  Also, as in any first meeting, you just never know if there really is "chemistry" until you actually physically meet. 

In a long distance relationship this aspect becomes a bit more frightening.  Flying thousands of miles to meet your love at the airport only to find that the "chemistry" just isn't there and you still have days to go before heading home can be heartbreaking.  Or if one is attracted but not the other.  You both have to prepare yourself for this because no matter how much you have in common and how well you know each other, if the "chemistry" just doesn't work, that's the end, at least the possibility of a long term love relationship.  You could end up being best of friends though.

The other part is you will be spending a great deal of time together right off the bat.  You don't get the opportunity to date a few times and work your way up.  You will be thrown into a very intense situations pretty quickly (unless you book a hotel for your stay).  The downside is that you find each others habits drive you crazy.  The upside is that you mesh very quickly and the days fly by (sigh).

Keeping The Relationship Together Through Distance

Being apart during a long distance romance can be a good thing, or bad, depending on the relationship you two have.  Longing for someone gives us such a rush of chemicals when we finally meet them again.  It is almost a high.  But if you are the type of person that needs someone around at least when you go to bed and wake up in the morning, long distance may not be for you.  As well, there is always the chance that one of you may meet someone local during the time you are apart. 

So Should I try it?

As long as you are prepared for the worse, hope for the best, then yes.  I personally know someone who was involved in a long distance online dating relationship.  She in Canada and he in the UK.  They met several times over a couple of years.  He moved to be with her and now they have been married for over 7 years.

Local Online Relationship

There are many benefits to meeting someone at an online dating site within your own local area.  Even though you may spend a great amount of time communicating through the dating membership site, you know, in the back of your mind, the chances are great you will meet.  One of the downfalls is that you may not be as careful or cautious as you should be before you meet.

Please do read the precautions I have outlined in the Online Dating Security.  These tips cover many of the issues you will face in the beginning.

Let's take you to the point of first meeting since I am sure you have read the "about us" page :-).  This is an incredibly exciting time, for both of you.  Again, remember first time should be a public place. 

When you meet, you have to be prepared for a couple of things, one is that the picture you have seen 'may' not be the person you see.  Personally this has not happened to me, but it has to people I met through online dating and when I was a moderator of a chat.  Also, as in any first meeting, you just never know if there really is "chemistry" until you actually physically meet. In a local online relationship, it is a bit easier as you can basically just acknowledge that it simply isn't there.  Hard if one feels it but the other doesn't.  It's one of the facts you need to face BEFORE you meet.

Should the meeting go well and you want to continue seeing each other, just keep in mind that the intensity of the online courtship is very different from real life.  You will be faced with real life issues that may not have come up online. 

Relationships, whether they start online or in person, must be pampered and cared for from both parties. They can and do work. I met my now husband at an online dating site and we are very happy.

Visit Our Blog to read online dating tips and articles

« Back


Questions?  Please contact me at:  info@onlinedatingresources.com