Trying Online Dating - The Second Time Around

You Can Find Love Online After Divorce or Relationship Break-up

There are two different areas when you talk about "second time around". 

First is when you have met someone online and it didn't work and you are thinking of trying again.

Second is when your marriage is over and you are ready to try to find a new romantic partner..

Can you learn to love again after divorce or a relationship ends..yes you can!

Second Time Around -
After The First Online Connection Didn't Work

So, you connected online and spent many hours talking about everything and anything.  You shared your dreams, desires and pictures.  You talked on the phone many times before you finally decided to meet.  You were so excited that night you were to meet and so sure everything would be wonderful, so sure you had found your true love. 

However, what you had online you did not have in person.  You were shattered.  You walked away from the computer saying you would never do that again.  Some time has passed now and you start thinking that maybe, just maybe you will try it again.  Will it work this time?

One of the problems of going through an online dating relationship and having it fall apart is the old saying "once bitten, twice shy".  But isn't that true with any relationship?! Yes you tend to be a bit more careful about revealing who you really are inside.  You are more likely to hold your emotions closer to yourself.  Of course this is totally understandable, but in the long run it will either push potential mates away before you even have a chance, or give potential mates the wrong impression of who you are.

As hard as it may be in the beginning, you need to try to be as open and honest about YOU as you were the first time around. 

It is a good idea to spend more time getting to know each other before you take the leap and meet.  One good way is using a service that has a video set up if the online dating membership site doesn't. Seeing each other first may help you know ahead whether you have chemistry. Or an online dating site that actually arranges functions in your area so you can meet people and not just one-on-one.

Remember, meeting online is the only difference, it's just a different way of meeting.  Better than a blind date that's for sure.  Don't give up!  I didn't - click here to read about it!

Second Time Around - The Marriage Is Over

Without a doubt it can be more difficult for the person who did not end the marriage to reach out and try an online dating service.  Also, if you were married for a long time the chances are you are scared to death of dating, getting back into that 'scene'.  On top of that, you are not as young as you use to be and wonder if anyone out there would even be interested in you.  You know what, there are lots of people out there just like you!

One of the benefits of online dating is that you don't have to put yourself back in the 'scene' so to speak too quickly. In this case, the first step is to find the right online dating membership site that fits your needs.  If you are just looking for 'friends' and not really a relationship (but if it happens that would be ok) most online dating services offer a 'friends' section. 

Connecting through online dating gives you a chance to slowly get to know someone, hey... a lot of some ones!  You don't have to do anything until you feel comfortable.  As you spend time talking with people, getting to know them, you will find that you become more and more confident about yourself and taking a chance at love again.

As someone who did this when my marriage was over, (actually took me over 10 years after that to date) I can honestly tell you it was the best decision I ever made.  I am happily married to the last man I met online, and the last man I will ever meet online :)

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